Smokey Goretooth at it again with a new “Do I Suck?,” MetalSucks’ version of “Am I The Asshole?” where we take real life horror stories and bring them to our readers to decide if the OP sucks for some bullshit they may or may not have done.
This week’s submission comes from a user who feels like they didn’t need to lose their spot by the stage for their friend’s sake. Let’s continue…
So, we just had our Warped Tour stop a few days ago, and I planned on going with one of my friends who had never attended the festival in the past at all. I used to go regularly in my younger years, so I was really excited to go and kind of wasn’t going to let anyone get in the way of it. I planned on getting there right when the gates opened, and my friend was going to meet me at some point in the afternoon.
There was a set I really wanted to see, and when my friend said they were on their way, I told them what stage I was at and that I was going to be towards the front. They texted me once they got there and said how they were really confused with the layout of the festival grounds and that they wanted me to come find them so we could be together. I read this text as the band was starting, and I responded to them saying that I really didn’t want to miss this set and that the map really wasn’t hard to figure out, and that I would just meet up with them after. This, apparently, was where I went wrong.
My friend then proceeds to blow my phone up about how shitty it was of me to not come and find them so that we could watch the set together, how I’m a bad friend, how they didn’t understand why I would invite them out if I didn’t plan on spending time with them, and how they felt I should reimburse them for their ticket because they wouldn’t have gone if I hadn’t invited them. I got quickly frustrated with the whole thing because one, they are a, ya know, adult and can figure their life out on their own, and two, there were bands they actually wanted to see who were playing that day so placing the ticket purchase blame on me was not only dumb but also absolutely infuriating. I didn’t even get to really enjoy the band, because continually feeling my phone going off was filling me with a rage redder than the devil’s dick.
The thing is — I never responded. Like, at all. I was so fucking mad that I just decided to let them drift about the festival on their own, because I don’t feel like I need to hold anyone’s hand. Plus, after how they started the afternoon, I had no interest in spending time with them for the rest of day anyway. They kept sending me texts about how I “abandoned” them and how they feel like I ruined our friendship, but I feel like that’s so overwrought and dramatic that it didn’t warrant any of my energy. They then told me we were done and that they were leaving, and after I still didn’t respond, they posted mildly veiled posts about how disloyal the people in their life are and how people can’t be trusted.
I still haven’t reached out to them, but they’ve told some of our mutual friends about the situation. They all, for the most part, feel I should’ve left my good spot at the front to sift through the crowd and find them to stand with them. I probably would’ve at some point, but their incessant texting didn’t really give me the chance, or a desire to create one.
We still haven’t spoken, and everyone thinks I’m an asshole. So, do I actually suck, though?
Not gonna lie, I’m with the submitter on this one. Having a full grown adult turn into a non-grown baby over having to watch a set by themselves would enrage me to no end, and I probably wouldn’t ever respond to them either. I guess that makes both of us sucky people…